Updated: Jul 6
Do you ever find yourself saying yes to things that you know you'll regret later? You say yes because you want someone to approve of you. You like to be liked and appreciated.
Maybe you've even won the People Pleaser of the Year award like I did circa 2012.
𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗮𝗻 𝗼𝗽𝗲𝗻 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗰𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗶𝗻 𝗛𝘂𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝗗𝗲𝘀𝗶𝗴𝗻, 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗺𝗮𝘆 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝘂𝗻𝘄𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀. 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗺𝗮𝘆 𝗯𝗲 𝗾𝘂𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂'𝗿𝗲 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗲𝗻𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗮 𝘀𝘂𝗰𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗻𝗲𝘁𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝗺𝗮𝗿𝗸𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗯𝘂𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀.
Then when it comes to take action, this feeling of unworthiness may result in a fear of taking action or you saying yes to things that should be a no.
(𝙁𝙪𝙣 𝙛𝙖𝙘𝙩: 𝘿𝙞𝙙 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙠𝙣𝙤𝙬 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 60% 𝙤𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙡𝙙'𝙨 𝙥𝙤𝙥𝙪𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙝𝙖𝙨 𝙖𝙣 𝙤𝙥𝙚𝙣 𝙝𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙩? 𝙎𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪'𝙧𝙚 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙖𝙡𝙤𝙣𝙚! 𝙈𝙤𝙧𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙣 𝙝𝙖𝙡𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙡𝙙 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡𝙨 𝙪𝙣𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙝𝙮 𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚𝙨.)
As a network marketer, you're like the middle child. You feel you have to do what your upline says while being responsible for your downline's success. Then when you add on an open heart center, boy, does that fuel the pressure to be everything to everyone!
If you find yourself feeling pressure to follow a marketing or recruiting strategy that doesn't feel good to you, it's ok to say no. You're not going to be valued any less. In fact, it increases your authoritative value for standing up for what you believe in.
Here are some questions to ask yourself when it comes to figuring out your network marketing sales, marketing and recruiting plan:
Am I taking this action to win someone's approval?
Do I feel I need to post this specific piece of content to prove something? (For example, like you're working hard to put yourself out there? Or prove that you're a worthy expert in your space?)
Is there unspoken pressure to take on a new task or way of doing something?
Am I taking a certain action to feel like enough or worthy?
Am I people pleasing and putting my own desires last?
What will happen if I do not do this thing that I really don't feel lit up to do?
Sometimes journaling about these things can bring forward a new awareness. You can face things head on and realize that it's not so scary after all just to be who you want to be and know that you're worthy for just being you.
Human Design can help so much in your business. When you learn more about what drives you, you better navigate your business and decisions. This is what helps you align to have the freedom you want in your life.